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    I can't find anymore related articles. I think my attitude is quite bad and it's affecting every part of my life, be it studies, love life, family life and friends. And it's definitely going to affect my future, esp my career.

    I need help

  • #2
    I'm sure you're not rude or ill-mannered, right? If you are, you wouldn't be admitting that you've got an attitude problem!


    • #3
      What kind of attitude problems are you talking about? Rude or demanding? Last time my superior also appraised me that I have poor relationship skills with my colleagues because I dont think the same as my other fake colleagues.

      This used to upset me and I dont think his judgement was fair because he was a hypocrite too sucking up to people. For me I dont think I want to be a fake person and go right being friendly with people that I dont like.


      • #4
        I can be rude when I'm angry or irritated. Use sacarsm to outtalk people. I'm admitting it because I face the same old problems in my r/s. And I'm quite rude to my parents because sometimes, they irritate the hell out of me. I've low tolerance and bad temper. I judge things mostly in a negative way.

        Veralyn, same here. That is why my bf scolded me for always not giving him face whenever his friends/colleagues are around, when I'm angry with him. I find it difficult to fake a smile and pretend that I'm alright.


        • #5
          Hmm I know what you mean. Last time it bothers me a lot and now I heck care. I just think and do what I think as long as I am not so unreasonable.

          Shooting star, maybe you should curb a bit of your temper in terms of your attitude towards your parents. Not very good If not do apologize to your parents after you have cooled down....

          Now in office I only have less than a handful of true friends and colleagues. I dont want to be a fake person and make myself so uncomfortable. So for me nowadays in the office I only talk when it is necessary and the rest of the time, I cot !!! lol....

          Just like I dont like my hubby's elder sis because of her cheapskate pattern. I dont talk to her when I see her but I do greet her with a smile and stop there. I am not rude it is just that no chemistry so dont talk.


          • #6
            i dont know, i am hostile towards my parents but sometimes they are really pissing me off. i know they are concerned but im legally an adult, but they still treat me like a kid. how upsetting.

            i know i must change, for if not i'm a goner.

            dont know how to change either.


            • #7
              hey dont sound so pessimistic. As long as you are aware of what are your weaknesses then you will be able to improve, rather than those people who dont think they need to change if they are really in the fault.

              Parents care for you that is why they may tend to over react. Reassured them that you will take good care of yourself through your actions by being responsible then parents will not nag at you often.


              • #8
                i've not done anything wrong or illegal but they are just too... over-concerned i must say.

                i find that im not able to get along with people with similar characters as mine. i have problems socialising with them and i feel stressed up when im around such people. so when i tend to interact when necessary, i might give an attitude.

                my bad attitude has also affected my r/s with my bf. he asked me to change as well.


                • #9
                  It is always like this. 2 people with the same characters will sometimes clash. So sometimes must learn to give and taken then you will be able to complement each other.


                  • #10
                    Just took the Enneagram test.
                    I think this is mostly why I think I have an AP.
                    Should I change my character then?

                    you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka "The Challenger").

                    "I must be strong"

                    Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.

                    How to Get Along with Me

                    Stand up for yourself... and me.
                    Be confident, strong, and direct.
                    Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.
                    Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.
                    Give me space to be alone.
                    Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.
                    I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.
                    When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.
                    What I Like About Being a EIGHT

                    being independent and self-reliant
                    being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
                    being courageous, straightforward, and honest
                    getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
                    supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
                    upholding just causes
                    What's Hard About Being a EIGHT

                    overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to
                    being restless and impatient with others' incompetence
                    sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
                    never forgetting injuries or injustices
                    putting too much pressure on myself
                    getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right
                    EIGHTs as Children Often

                    are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit
                    are sometimes loners
                    seize control so they won't be controlled
                    fugure out others' weaknesses
                    attack verbally or physically when provoked
                    take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings
                    EIGHTs as Parents

                    are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted
                    are sometimes overprotective
                    can be demanding, controlling, and rigid