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    Im downright shy. It's not a self-esteem issue, i am sure because i am confident of my own abilities even though i know i'm not exactly the best out there.

    It's a personality thing. As a child i have always been shy. I talk little to strangers. In fact, I could sit beside a stranger and get stricken with fear as he talks to me.

    I would become dumb and mute in a group especially during group events. I can't survive at parties without having my stress levels pierce through the highest clouds.

    In other words, I'm so shy I probably need professional help.

    I can talk to people 1-to-1 but the moment someone else joins in, i get all silent and do not dare to talk anymore.

    I get so shy in a public/group setting i start to mumble and behave a little "retarded" (no offence).

    Anyone out there as shy as I am?

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    Originally posted by sobranie View Post
    Im downright shy. It's not a self-esteem issue, i am sure because i am confident of my own abilities even though i know i'm not exactly the best out there.

    It's a personality thing. As a child i have always been shy. I talk little to strangers. In fact, I could sit beside a stranger and get stricken with fear as he talks to me.

    I would become dumb and mute in a group especially during group events. I can't survive at parties without having my stress levels pierce through the highest clouds.

    In other words, I'm so shy I probably need professional help.

    I can talk to people 1-to-1 but the moment someone else joins in, i get all silent and do not dare to talk anymore.

    I get so shy in a public/group setting i start to mumble and behave a little "retarded" (no offence).

    Anyone out there as shy as I am?
    Hmm..... I may not be consider as a shy person (Although I might needs a little bit more time to open up to new friends) but then I think that you may overcome your shyness one step at a time......

    Like you may ask your close friends whom you are comfortable with you to join some social events etc so that with the presence of your close friends you will also feel more comfortable communicating with strangers who might become your clsoe friends in the future......

    BTW actually you have considered stepping out of the first step by posting in the forums and communicating with fellow forumers online.....

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    • #3
      Hi TS. I am the same too. Sigh,

      But i learn to live this way. I am myself, no doubt i lonely at times. But that life...

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      • #4
        im shy to meet new people...

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        • #5
          i don't warm up to people easily.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by sobranie View Post
            Im downright shy. It's not a self-esteem issue, i am sure because i am confident of my own abilities even though i know i'm not exactly the best out there.

            It's a personality thing. As a child i have always been shy. I talk little to strangers. In fact, I could sit beside a stranger and get stricken with fear as he talks to me.

            I would become dumb and mute in a group especially during group events. I can't survive at parties without having my stress levels pierce through the highest clouds.

            In other words, I'm so shy I probably need professional help.

            I can talk to people 1-to-1 but the moment someone else joins in, i get all silent and do not dare to talk anymore.

            I get so shy in a public/group setting i start to mumble and behave a little "retarded" (no offence).

            Anyone out there as shy as I am?

            I am exactly like you sobranie, i am confident when talking one to one but when in groups or when someone join in my heart will race and i will become like a shy kid when i am already an adult. Alot of people got this misconception that i am just acting shy. this made me feel very sad. I really want to find ways to help myself but i really do not know how. this has been affecting my life especially my careers.

            i am quite surprise that you are very similar to me as i thought i am the only weirdo on earth

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            • #7
              I am shy too especially in a group. People are talking abt something , i will just smile and hardly mix in cause i fear that my point will get ignored cause its uninteresting. Depend on some topic too, i will only contribute something that i know in a group conversation. I will never be a leader in sharing with a group unless for group work if something casual, i wont. People always say that im quiet and serious cause i hardly will create joke to tease people or respond to joke in a lame way. The reason of being quiet is it's just hard for me to open up to certain people. I really need to be open n let go myself.

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              • #8
                I feel relieved to know that there are some of you out there whom are just like me. I always thought i am probably the only person on earth being so shy and no one will be able to understand how i feel.

                I'm an adult as well and chronic shyness is not just affecting my career but my love life. People either think im too arrogant and snobbish because i don't talk to them or feel i am not interested.

                Whenever there is a group discussion, I don't dare to speak up as i am paralysed by shyness. I'll just keep quiet, sit there, nod my head and feel so left out.

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                • #9
                  i'm shy too. i lack e self confidence. first of all, my complexion is not good. i dun dare to look at others in the eye when talking to them.

                  also feel that whenever i say something in a group, my comments are usually bypassed very quickly. i feel ignored. maybe only once or twice do i get a reply from someone else. this is quite depressing.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by skypacer View Post
                    i'm shy too. i lack e self confidence. first of all, my complexion is not good. i dun dare to look at others in the eye when talking to them.

                    also feel that whenever i say something in a group, my comments are usually bypassed very quickly. i feel ignored. maybe only once or twice do i get a reply from someone else. this is quite depressing.
                    Well, self confident is very confident in every aspects of your life..... Without self confident one will lack motivation and will never get things done.....

                    But then it's always better not to be over confident either......

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by skypacer View Post
                      i'm shy too. i lack e self confidence. first of all, my complexion is not good. i dun dare to look at others in the eye when talking to them.

                      also feel that whenever i say something in a group, my comments are usually bypassed very quickly. i feel ignored. maybe only once or twice do i get a reply from someone else. this is quite depressing.
                      Well..... You might needs to open up slowly......

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by sobranie View Post
                        Im downright shy. It's not a self-esteem issue, i am sure because i am confident of my own abilities even though i know i'm not exactly the best out there.

                        It's a personality thing. As a child i have always been shy. I talk little to strangers. In fact, I could sit beside a stranger and get stricken with fear as he talks to me.

                        I would become dumb and mute in a group especially during group events. I can't survive at parties without having my stress levels pierce through the highest clouds.

                        In other words, I'm so shy I probably need professional help.

                        I can talk to people 1-to-1 but the moment someone else joins in, i get all silent and do not dare to talk anymore.

                        I get so shy in a public/group setting i start to mumble and behave a little "retarded" (no offence).

                        Anyone out there as shy as I am?
                        I think I am quite similar to ur case. I'm not low-esteem and too confident of my abilities but just too shy to talk to people especially when someone gets into me and someone else conversation.

                        Another problem of mine is that everytime I hang out with my bf, and if we happened to see his friends coincidentally, I would just walked away and hide somewhere else. I hide, which is I know, a little like a small kid. But fortunately my bf is able to accept this slightly negative trait of mine.

                        When I need to socialise, I would act like very sociable. Just by smiling can hide ur shyness. Don't look glum too much otherwise people would drift away from you.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by sobranie View Post
                          I feel relieved to know that there are some of you out there whom are just like me. I always thought i am probably the only person on earth being so shy and no one will be able to understand how i feel.

                          I'm an adult as well and chronic shyness is not just affecting my career but my love life. People either think im too arrogant and snobbish because i don't talk to them or feel i am not interested.

                          Whenever there is a group discussion, I don't dare to speak up as i am paralysed by shyness. I'll just keep quiet, sit there, nod my head and feel so left out.
                          Hi sobranie do u mind me asking how old are u and what are you working as? ya this shyness really affect career alot, i dun dare to speak up which result in my boss dun really like me, and i get push around easily and i feel that everyone likes to bully me. this really makes me very depress. i wanna help myself but i dun know how. though now i have a bf but i guess due to this problem
                          he might leave me one day bcoz i am not able to socialise with his friends as he is in the front line having to meet alot of people.

                          really feel very depress now, i cant really focus on my work.

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                          • #14
                            I think this is a great article to look at!
                            http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/...ntrovert/2696/

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by blueice03 View Post
                              Hi sobranie do u mind me asking how old are u and what are you working as? ya this shyness really affect career alot, i dun dare to speak up which result in my boss dun really like me, and i get push around easily and i feel that everyone likes to bully me. this really makes me very depress. i wanna help myself but i dun know how. though now i have a bf but i guess due to this problem
                              he might leave me one day bcoz i am not able to socialise with his friends as he is in the front line having to meet alot of people.

                              really feel very depress now, i cant really focus on my work.
                              I'm 21 years old this year and working in a bank.

                              I almost "died" during the bank's orientation because I was thrown into a sea of strangers that were extremely outgoing and chatty. They were all meant to be in banking sales so you could almost imagine how much these people can talk!!

                              It was one of the worst days of my life. They kept asking me "why you so quiet huh?", "Why you never talk one ah?". They don't seem to understand that different people have different personalities and they can't expect everyone to be like them.

                              Sometimes I really do hope to be a little less shy but I don't know how to. So depressed as well..

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