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    Strengthen Child’s Esteem
    Children with a healthy sense of self-esteem feel that the important adults in their lives accept them, care about them, and would go out of their way to ensure that they are safe and well. They feel that those adults would be upset if anything happened to them and would miss them if they were separated. Children with low self-esteem, on the other hand, feel that the important adults and peers in their lives do not accept them, do not care about them very much, and would not go out of their way to ensure their safety and well-being.

  • #2
    Communicating with Your Teenager

    Communication is the most important element in building a successful relationship with your teenager. The expression, “It is not what you say, but how you say it,” has never been more true or more applicable than here. As we talk with our teens, we can either give them a sense of compassion, understanding, and support; or we can convey to them that we are disappointed and angryabout what they did, and that they aren’t doing what we told them to.


    • #3
      Exam stress - tips for parents

      The exam season can be a stressful time for parents and children. Parents can play a key role in helping their children cope with exam stress. The best way to support your children is by following these tips:

      •don’t place unnecessary pressure on your children to gain certain grades. They may feel they have failed if they don’t achieve what they thought was expected of them
      •encourage children to take regular breaks, eat snacks and exercise
      •help them revise by leaving them the space and time to do so. Be relaxed about chores or untidiness and understand they might be moody
      •allow your children to revise at nights if that’s what works best for them however do make sure that they get enough sleep to keep their energy levels up in the day
      •be supportive and help alleviate their worries by talking to them
      •let them know that ChildLine has produced a series of revision tips to help beat exam stress
      •be positive, help them put the whole thing into perspective. They can always take an exam again
      •tell them exams don’t have to be stressful and send them a link to ChildLine’s new video clip on unusual way to beat exam stress to cheer them up.FRY


      • #4
        M" is for the million things she gave me,
        "O" means only that she's growing old,
        "T" is for the tears she shed to save me,
        "H" is for her heart of purest gold,
        "E" is for her eyes, with love-light shining,
        "R" means right, and right she'll always be.


        • #5
          Give teens a break:

          Give them a break - It's unrealistic to expect anyone, especially teens, to study all day without a break. Ask them to make a revision plan, including short, regular breaks, and show it to you. Put it on the wall in the kitchen where you can both see it - that way you'll both know what they're supposed to be doing, when.


          • #6
            Providing proper space to study for teens :

            Set up a study space - This should be a desk or table where they can study without any distractions - so not in earshot of the TV, and ideally not in a bedroom, either. If the only suitable space is in the living room, turn off the TV for a few hours and give them the peace they need.


            • #7
              Try to know your teen :

              Get to know the music and movies that teens are interested in so that you can make a fair judgment about the content and what they like the most.


              • #8
                Talk to your teen about their goals :
                Talk about their ambitions - Ask them what they want to achieve. Encourage them to see the exams as a means to an end - for example, if they pass they'll be able to go to college, and then they'll be one step nearer to their goals.


                • #9
                  "Where are you going?" - most common question asked by the parents.
                  Read below why do they ask the same question every-time !!!

                  The reason teens think parents ask this question-
                  The three most common reasons teens think parents ask this question are; to be nosey, to stop them from going, or to know where to go to check up or spy on them.

                  The real reason parents ask this question:
                  Parents really ask this question so that they can be sure that where you are going is safe, suitable for somebody your age and properly supervised. While it is possible that your parents would stop you from going somewhere unsafe, unsuitable or poorly supervised their motive for asking is not to ruin your fun but to make sure that you won’t be put in harms way.


                  • #10

                    There is a tendency today to speak of 'parents' or 'carers' rather than 'mothers' or 'fathers'. People often say that the most important thing in raising children is to give them lots of love, something that all parents can do, regardless of whether they are a mother or a father. However, there are also many ways that mothers and fathers can bring unique strengths to their relationships with their children. In real people's lives, you can see these contributions, and they have been measured by social scientists. Fathers-just like mothers-always matter.
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                    • #11
                      Understand adolescent depression -
                      Irritability and explosiveness in teens are sometimes symptoms of depression. If your teen’s mood seems unreasonable given his or her situation, it is important to have a professional screen for depression. Sometimes it really is about biochemistry. When that is the case, some medication and counseling will do more than lectures and consequences.


                      • #12
                        It’s how you handle anger and stress that matters -

                        Anger and stress are natural experiences. The way we deal with anger and stress can make the difference between healthy and unhealthy levels. With stress, for example, we can’t always prevent stressful events from occurring; however, managing stress through breathing exercises, journaling or other stress management techniques can neutralize the effects of stress. Likewise, we can’t always prevent anger from occurring, but we can work through our anger in healthy ways, and it’s not a problem or we can try to “stuff” anger or express it in negative and unhealthy ways, and it becomes a problem.


                        • #13
                          Take it seriously, but not personally:

                          Angry teens sometimes do have things to be angry about. But equally often, their anger seems totally out of proportion to their lot in life. If you have treated your teen with love and respect all along and that teen is still hostile, it may have very little to do with you or with how that teen was raised. There are more influences on a teen’s life than his or her parents. Parents who resolutely stay involved and responsible but who don’t take each and every misbehavior as a personal attack are usually more effective than those who take all comments and actions to heart.


                          • #14
                            How You Can Help Your Teen To Explore Occupations -
                            When one is young, the future's possibilities are endless. A teen can look at a variety of occupations without the critical eye one must have later on. There are many ways to explore occupations and parents are a key component in helping their children with this process. Here is what you should do:

                            - Keep Your Opinions to Yourself: Try not to discourage your teen from exploring a particular career option field.

                            - Network: Use your connections to set up opportunities for your teen to meet with people working in various occupations.

                            - Protect Your Kids: Make sure you know who your teen is contacting to get information about careers. Accompany your teen if he or she is meeting someone.


                            • #15
                              Mistake Pothole & Quick Fix Tip -
                              Caving on the consequences (or rewards) you set for certain behavior choices. You jump right into this pothole if you set a consequence or reward for a certain behavior and do not follow through. You will lose leverage and credibility that you might need for a later event.

                              Quick Fix Tip: This one is simple and you can make it easier on yourself. Follow through with what you say will happen. Choose consequences that do not threaten the teen. Choose consequences you intend to back up. Be consistent and keep consequences reasonably simple. Keep them free of shaming. The trick here is to match the consequences appropriately to behavior. You do not need the heavy equipment for every repair job. This fix has a nice payoff. It builds trust.