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  • A Girl's Mantra

    Hi girls,

    I received this as an email today from a very sweet girlfriend and I find that it makes perfect sense.

    I would like to share it with all of you. Here goes:

    Nothing but the truth:

    1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't
    want you, nothing can make him stay.

    2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

    3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

    4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

    5. Slower is better.

    6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

    7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

    8. Don't settle.

    9. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

    10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

    11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

    12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

    13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

    14. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

    15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you

    16. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

    17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

    18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more
    nothing less

    19. Never let a man define who you are.

    20. Never borrow someone else's man.

    21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

    22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

    23. All men are NOT dogs.

    24. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

    25. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

    26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
    complimentary...not supplementary.

    27. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

    28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

    29. Never move into his mother's house.

    30. Never co-sign for a man.

    31. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything

    that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

    Pass this on. You'll make someone smile, another rethink her

    choices, and another woman prepare.

  • #2
    thanks for sharing, regina!

    very interesting! personally i can relate very strongly to #10


    • #3
      I strongly agree with #13!


      • #4
        So true. Good one, Regina


        • #5
          Yeah very motivating and a good reminders for all girls out there.
          Some of the phrases have been repeated to me umpteen times by my mom!
          Like..nv let a man hv an edge over u and women shld always hv their own gal pals n be financially independent!


          • #6
            Sure helps someone like me who's constantly on the verge of breaking up

            :huh: I always have troubling deciding whether to break-up and how...


            • #7
              daphz, the answer will be clear to you after some time in the relationship! I know how it feels.

              Oooh, the only ones I didn't quite like from the list are #13 and #27, but i think the list is generally good advice!


              • #8
                I generally like the "It's not you, it's me" for breakups ... great routine. It's equal opportunity these days. No point making ourselves doormats to men anymore - if I'm working fulltime I'm not doing the housework. I do it to be nice, and should be thanked for it. End of story. Then again I'll probably end up a spinster. A happy one that is.


                • #9
                  Aphrael, you have a strong personality! Me... I'm weak-willed...


                  • #10
                    Well, I take no nonsense from anybody ... ESPECIALLY men. Strangely they keep coming after me. All I can say is, careful what you wish for. I'm a tough nut to crack and woe to anybody who thinks they own me. My longest cold war with my parents was 13 days, and I was living off them at the time. They got the message.


                    • #11
                      i think #21 is so true!

                      having seen some similar cases around me. some men are such jerks!


                      • #12
                        really really gd advice, mayb should print n pin it up somewhere visible to remind myself! hahaha


                        • #13
                          i personally like #29


                          • #14
                            I so agree with #22.


                            • #15
                              I like No. 26 The word 'compliment' is what one of our good friends used on hubby and myself